Life's Steps

Posted by DesertFox on March 10, 2013, 2:39 p.m.

Sup 64digitoids! It's time Blogification Day! That wonderful day in which I get off my lazy butt and make a blog to show that I still in fact exist.

Okay, so I'm lying. You all know I exist, just mostly on IRC. I blame it on my job. It sucks up a lot of time and only gives me money in return. If instead I could purchase time for money with a slightly better exchange rate, I could use the discrepancy to buy more time than I spent earning money with which to buy said time, effectively making me immortal and infinitely rich. Speaking of time and money, reviews came in and I got a raise!

To celebrate, I promptly went and bought random steam games. I have an addiction. Please help. By pointing out amazing games, that is…

Now, on to the serious part of this blog. In reference to the blog's title, there is in fact deeper meaning.

First off, my brother got married. First of my brothers to do so. It was quite the interesting affair, especially seeing as I was one of the groomsmen. We spent all day getting stuff ready and set up outside. Hanging things from trees with hooks and ladders and running around and in general lots of busywork that all came undone because the sky found that it wanted in on the party as well, and it promptly decided to send down raindrops as its foreign emissaries. In short, it rained. We moved it inside though, and it went quite well despite this. Aside from the actual marrying, one of the highlights was the smoking-cigars-and-drinking-scotch portion. Not a super-big fan of cigars, but I rather like scotch. Also, it annoys some people to no end that although I do not smoke cigars, I can still blow the occasional smoke ring, because they can't. To them, I say 'Basic physics!'. Also, 'nyah nyah', just because. Anyhow, they're off to Hawaii for their honeymoon, which is going to be even better than they planned because of a certain budget increase via yours truly. They already had a toaster.

Now for the latter portion of this ramblification that pretends to be a blog. This actually takes place prior to the whole wedding thing. Bit of backstory first, though.

Growing up, my brother (the one that got married) was… difficult. He was quite the jerk - people use to pick on him sometimes, and he was bigger than me, and you know how that goes. Trickle-down economics as applied to teenage angst. So we've never been super-close. However, once he got to college, it was like a lightbulb was switched on. He got out on his own, had some realizations, and now he is an great guy - kind, friendly, and essentially everything I wished he was like when I was a kid. However, still not that close to him.

Other relevant portion of backstory is that I have a boyfriend. You can see where I am headed. Certain portions of the family would not approve - but it isn't as easy as that as to the fact that all portions of the family have a tendency to let things slip accidentally really easily at times - and at other times not-so-accidentally. Up until now I have told no one in my family, and not let even an inkling cross their bow. I am a very guarded person and I didn't know whom I could trust.

However, with the whole wedding beginning to loom on the horizon, we'd gotten together and gone out for drinks, and when we got home we ended up talking about stuff and eventually the conversation landed on how he felt sad that I didn't have someone like he did. So I decided to bite the bullet and just talk. Long story short, he now knows about my boyfriend, he is supportive of it, and he's happy that I've got someone. All in all it went better than expected - and as it so turned out, at the wedding, the Maid of Honor was actually the 'Gay of Honor' because the bride's best friend was… a gay guy. So big surprise to me, and very reassuring, and also explains why my brother was more supportive than I thought he'd be.

So now I've got a brother that I can talk to. I've never had that before. I wonder how this will all play out.

Also, the new computer is awesomefantastic.


DesertFox 11 years, 4 months ago

Pretty much 90% of my worry is my dad, and that's because he would freak the fuck out. We are very similar in terms of personality, likes, dislikes, the way we act, and a whole bunch of other stuff. He sees me as a younger, smarter version of himself, and the funny part is that this is all very true - even though I am technically his step-son, we are incredibly similar sometimes, and because of this we have a really strong relationship.

It would be kind of a bit of shell-shock for him, really, and owing to the close relationship we have, he'd project it on himself.. It all boils down to the fact that he isn't very good at questioning himself, and he'd be scared that if I have a boyfriend, it might mean that he is gay even though that is ludicrous.

tl;dr I know that his reaction would stem from misunderstanding rather than hatred. Because of that, tact is required. The end goal isn't to tell them that I have a boyfriend. Nor is it for them to accept that fact, because you can quite easily accept a fact and then as immediately hate someone because of it. It is understanding that is important, because with the understanding comes enlightenment. Hence, tact.

Charlie Carlo 11 years, 4 months ago

Then you better shell shock him sooner than later. I can imagine his response will be doubly negative if he finds out at your wedding, although that'd be hilarious if your life was some kind of terrible sitcom… lol why do I talk?

Anyways, cool deal, with the job, money, computer, and brother upgrades. You should get Mirror's Edge if you haven't yet, I just started playing it because I too have gotten computer upgrades (a new graphics card) in the last week; it's a really great game, although the dialogue is horribly tacky.

DesertFox 11 years, 4 months ago

@steven - Exactly. It is his problem. We ought to focus on the problem, though - not merely who's problem it is. So my view is to come up with a solution. There's nothing saying I can't help.

@Charlie - I'd tell my family long before that occurred. Also Mirror's Edge is awesome - I've only played the beginning and I need to finish it :P

Toast 11 years, 4 months ago

They already had a toaster.
I should certainly think so

I'm happy for you that you have a good relationship with your brother. As for everything else, just do what you think is right.

Cesque 11 years, 4 months ago

I liked the idea behind Mirror's Edge but I didn't like Mirror's Edge.

Part of this was because of EA's ridiculous automatic localisation, which forced me to play in Polish (yes, I meddled with all the files, I even tried replacing dialogue files and it didn't work for whatever reason), so the already tacky dialogue got even more ridiculous.

Also, it annoys some people to no end that although I do not smoke cigars, I can still blow the occasional smoke ring, because they can't. To them, I say 'Basic physics!'.

Same here, except I go for 'Basic phonetics!'.

Also: what Toast said.

Snakeman 11 years, 4 months ago

Get Torchlight II! I wouldn't mind having more people to play that with. :D

JuurianChi 11 years, 4 months ago

People here play Torchlight 2?

I have that game. :c

tylerthemiler 11 years, 4 months ago

Seems like you are in a pretty good place with the situation with your Dad, so your plan sounds good to me :)

In the meantime, to get him warmed up, just play this on loop somewhere: